The Grand Illusion

It has been a while since I lasted posted. No awful music from Noise to Note! and no witty stories. This is because the last few days I have been mustering up my courage to do something that I really, really, really hate to do. That is to ask for help.


This is me. I started The Side Wedge to help people with surfing and to share some stories. I used to be a competing professional surfer. We all have problems and I had some major problems. Heck, I once almost died! But I always worked hard and things went my way and life was back on track for lots of surfing and doing management jobs.

Many years ago, I was going about my normal routine. I was dating around, working, and surfing of course and I had an odd sense come over me. I wanted something more meaningful. Around this time, I met my now wife. She lives in Brazil but I was not worried about this.

Then a long series of events happened that dramatically changed my employer. I am going to gloss over the gory details but one day my life would change. I was the first employee to be laid off at my company in the companies history. I was not alone of course. Many of us were sent packing on that day.

I will just say this. The timing was terrible. It was dead on in the middle of the last recession and my usual fast transition to new employment hit countless hurdles. So by the time I was re-employed, I was in a deep, deep hole.

So this has been my past 5 years. I do without, I skip surfing, I save, and then the car breaks down or I have to pay for medical bills that are uncovered by insurance. If I save $700.00, I will get hit with a bill for $800.


Us many years ago during one of the visits

Through this awful period, my fiance has been waiting and waiting and waiting. Finally last year, we found the cheapest flight (the ones with 8 lay overs) and I arrived in Fortaleza to be married. Of course we hit a hurdle and had to pay more money to get the process rushed through the system. And with that, we became husband and wife. I spent 3 wonderful weeks with her and boarded a plane back to Florida where once again we are separated.

So this week I just said enough. I cant struggle and make this 7 years apart. Or 8 years. I had to do something. So I decided to make a gofundme page. Asking for help was worse than hitting publish on my first blog post and that was not easy at all to do.


Us now! We are getting old!         Ha ha!

So this is it. And if anyone wants to donate a few bucks to help out the most patient couple in the world then please do! Because I really do like Skype and I think it is incredible but coming home to my wife in person would be much better! Plus, it would mean less housework for me to take care of!


I also really hope to get the monkey off my back so I can make this a real site…




About 1stpeaksteve

Welcome to The Side Wedge! The Side Wedge is a product of the journey through life of Steve Zima. Former professional surfer, a writer, surf coach, and hospitality manager. This is a collection of travel tips, motivation, and stories from my past. Finally, I offer surf coaching through The Side Wedge. Please feel free to contact me with questions if you want to improve your performance today! Thanks for reading!
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