String of Days


In my work career, I have been blessed with working amongst a wide swath of people. Some of my co-workers are now in a high place and doing very well. Then I have worked amongst people who seem to have lives filled with chaos and bad luck. As an outsider, I have observed the actions of many and have seen what propels people along or just keeps them stuck.

During several events, I too have been tested. As hard as I tried, it seemed that I could not catch a break. The struggles seemed demoralizing at times. I would step back, plan, execute my plan, and then watch as something else would happen and make my gains seemingly disappear.

To someone watching, it would have seemed hopeless.

My Necklace

One day, I am going to win the lottery. One day, if I keep working hard, my luck will change. My plan is to stop smoking so next week I will cut down.

During my down times, I never once had thoughts such as these. When I was at my lowest, I never spent money on the lottery. I had my cable turned off and I stopped watching television. I cut my food spending bill down by cooking at home. I made sure my earnings were higher than what was going out the door.

I spent hours sitting at home alone. Reading. Studying about interviewing and improving my profile on Glassdoor and LinkedIn. I was determined that although it felt like I had fallen into a sea of problems that I was not going to become a victim of drowning. I knew that I had to kick my feet to make it to shore.

Our lives are not a collection of good days or huge events.

Our lives are a necklace. A collection of days strung together. Some will be blessed and some will not. Some will not have a lot of days strung together at all. Yet, each can have their day be colorful or shiny. Or it can be a bottle cap or a dirty piece of plastic as the representation of what you did. The point is what really matters is what you choose to do with today.

If tomorrow comes, then you can work on that day. Adding it to the string with your actions; or inaction.

So were my low points really filler between the big events? Were those days just throw aways – basically a waste of a day…Bare string.  They could have been but I chose to make them productive. Now I see that my actions joined the events together and linked my golden moments along the chain.

Your Beads

What can you do to make today and tomorrow shine?


Drop by a friends house.

Go to the gym.

Visit a restaurant that you have been interested in yet never visited.

Sit for 10 minutes and think of one thing at work that you could do but no one ever does.

Write a thank you note.

Do something you used to love to do but have stopped.

You have to decide what kind of necklace you will create.














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Noise to Note! #143

Noise to Note!

I was thinking to myself the other day…What have I not listened to in a long time?

Then I thought that it had been a while since I turned some people on to what I like to listen to.

Let them eat cake!

Sonic Youth – Antenna.


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The Update – Work Edition

2018-04-10 10.35.29

I was like so many people. Working extra hours, taking care of big tasks, and coming to work with shoes that worn through. Working nights, holidays, weekends.

There was always promise. The new GM would be better. The new position will lift me out of near poverty. It will happen!

I remember once writing a report showing ways that the resort could be improved in a cheap manner and I sent it to my General Manager. He never mentioned a thing about it. It laid on his desk under a pile of papers for over a year. I also found compliments from guests that no one told me about.

At some point, I was done. I realized something important. I was wasting my time.

After I left, I felt a huge weight come off of me. Then I decided to do something counter intuitive. I did not look for a job. I went to work on my me. My resume. My LinkedIn page. Glassdoor. And how to create an image of myself that showed who and what I was capable of doing.

After I began to apply for positions, I was offered a position by two organizations. One was in the hotel industry and the other was in local government. At one stage, I could not decide which one to take. Then when the hotel organization made some errors, it made me realize that I was returning back to where I came and I took the position with our local city.

As of today, it is the weekend. The weekend between Christmas and New Years Eve. If I was a manager in a hotel and it was the weekend between Christmas and New Years then I am sure I would be working and not writing. I would not have spent the day with my son. I will not even go into the pay.

But the issue is not working in the Hospitality Industry. It is about working in a place that does not care about you and your reaction being to feel that you can not do any better or find another job.

If in Mumbai, there is a call center that is taking calls from people overseas, then the answer is that yes, you can do something else. The only thing stopping it from happening is you.

This year, I formed a partnership with a local community center which helps people find employment. For the most part, even with poor resumes at times, the students of the class are given employment after interviewing. This is because you really get the feeling that they are not blaming the world for their situation; they decided to work on themselves. Instead of just doing the bottom line which is filling out applications, they enrolled in a course to lean how to answer interview questions and to create an improved persona. Then they take this attitude into the workplace and are grateful and not complacent when taking on a day of working.

So I am really looking forward to 2019!

Be on the look out for my next installment about what happened over 2018.

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A Note on Christmas Eve



Earlier in the year, things really began to morph for me and I kept holding off on posting. Then it went from one month to two to four to six…You get the picture. Now it is only days until 2019!

So let me talk surfing for this installment.

I have a lot to work on. I know this because I have been surfing a bunch lately which means the world to me. Some days I feel great and other times I am not feeling like the old me. So only one thing can change this…Work and more work!

I have changed shapers. I now am riding boards shaped by Shea Lopez who was in the WSL for years. I feel that Shea and I are both firm believers in self-improvement so our working relationship should make for great boards in the future!

I also entered a surf contest and surfed the Masters Pro division. I came in 3rd in my first heat. Within the first ten minutes, I felt underprepared which is not how you want to feel in the middle of a competition. So once again…More work.

So I have some work but I have been actively working on a program to improve myself. Thankfully my years of coaching and competing have given me an insight into self-diagnosis and creating work plans.

Well, expect another post in a day or so. I have a lot more to speak about!!

Merry Christmas!!!



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Overview of the Past Few Weeks


My wife and I have been going through the very challenging process of obtaining her Permanent Resident Visa for a very long time. Due to some speed bumps on the road of life, it put the breaks on the process and at times things crawled along like a sick turtle. But over the course of the past year, we have seen things move forward in a very unexpected speed. So imagine our surprise when we received notice that within slightly over a month we were to have our final interview in Rio de Janeiro!

It is hard to plan a vacation months out so imagine telling your employer that you were taking off for several weeks and then you had to find tickets and a place to stay as you prepared for one of the most vital weeks of your relationship. And I forgot the other exams that had to be done and scheduled before the final interview. Not to much pressure!!

Need More Stress?

Why not!

So within a few days of landing, I discovered 2 things that added more problems. The first was that due to some instability in Rio, that at times I could only withdraw up to $500 reais from the ATM a day. The second thing was my bank was overzealous with security and at times was declining the odd requests for money even after I had told them that I was traveling to Rio! So getting by at times was not fun and resulted in a few meals of Ramen Noodles while I called my bank to straighten out the issues!

The Huge Day!

The process was rather odd and was done a lot faster than what we imagined. After answering a few basic questions, our long struggle was finished. Then just like that, the tone of the trip turned from jumping hurdles to enjoying our time together. The bank got their act together and I could get my money and we began to explore places in Rio that I have never seen in all of the times that I have been there.


We visited some historic churches and museums and took in the sights at Arpoador and the other beaches. We also went to Corcovado as well and I marveled at the view while combating my fear of heights. Believe me…it is high!!!

Now I am back at home and we are waiting for some final things which will help us map out our next step.

Things are moving forward!

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How to End Kookdom


Hello Kook!

As a surf coach and a former contest guy, I had the joys of analyzing a lot of surfers. The good ones had a solid base so it was matter of making tiny changes. For surfers on the opposite end of the spectrum, the changes are easier to find and to work on because the problems are obvious.

But let us say that you came to me and you are fairly new to surfing or just not doing as great as what you would want. For me, I would just head straight to ground zero and fix the problem that pretty much either makes you the good guy at your beach or a surfer stuck in a stink bug stance that people are shaking their fists at because you blew a good wave. And the answer lies in the last sentence.


Analyzing my Photo

In this photo, I am doing a slide off the top so at this point I am not trying to involve the rails. For our purposes, it is great because it illustrates what beginners can not do.

So looking from my waist to my ankles, you can see that my front leg and back leg are doing two completely different things. My back leg to my back knee are cocked forward while my front knee is more stable. They are unequal. If they were both in the same balanced stance, I would not be able to turn very well at all.

There is where most surf school instructors doom their students to a life of stink bug mayhem. They fail to enforce it in new students to ride with their weight on one leg or the other and the majority of the time it should be your back foot.

In fact, if you are having issues and you have just read my post, go out for a surf and catch some waves. Once you stand up, keep bending your back knee and putting weight on your back foot and lighten up on your front leg and see what happens.

And the final analysis of my photo is my upper body. You should be upright and not folding forward at your waist. This does nothing for your ability to turn because if you want to surf well, you need to turn to the opposite direction as well and that requires you to roll your board onto the outside rail.

So work on this and see if your surfing improves.

And I will gladly answer any questions related to improving performance issues!


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The Bridge

Anderson Street


The SideWedge has a few people that comment regularly but mainly most of it now seems to be on Instagram. However, this site will always be my first-born baby for so many reasons. Mainly because it serves as my bridge. And I hate typing real stories out on a phone. It seems unnatural!!!

Regarding the statement about the bridge; our past is a fickle thing. Most of us look back and see the best times. We see our youth and our adventures. And I have loads of adventures to write about! But the past is gone and you can not drive a car peering into the rearview mirror. You have to look through the giant windshield and see what is coming up.

As for my site, it serves as both to me. It is my bridge. I can see my past accomplishments which motivates me to do better. The blog also makes me think of ways to be more positive and to post things that serve some kind of purpose instead of being negative. I experience things and then process the impact it has upon me and then I have to make some decisions. I have to decide if what I write will anchor me in the past or move me forward.  As you can tell by my poor output level of posts, most of what I experience I tend to toss in the garbage.

To go on further, I have read all of the tricks to the trade of getting viewership. Tell a great story! Post on a regular schedule. Offer something. But on my long trek over the past 6 years, I decided to just post when I had something good to say. The other days, I made the choice to just sit alone and map out a way to improve my life without taking the low road in dealing with some issues.

My Late Night Stroll

The other night, it was raining and I was needing to get out of the office so I took a walk down the site of our newer performing arts center and I looked at the long center island that was now in bloom with flowers. It was once a concrete median and now it is a flower bed that compliments the area. It was created by my team and they struggled with it for the short time that I have been at my new job. But now it has paid off!

When you let people do their jobs, you would be amazed at what can happen.

I endured a long time of the opposite. Stories that could have been hundreds of sensational posts about the worst behaviors of managers. But I did not do this. I knew I was better. I knew that I could find something better and I have.

Now only a few months into the job, I am helping my new employer make changes and they welcome it.

As I have posted before, the tides will always change. The winds shift.

You have to be prepared to ensure you are ready to move on across the bridge.



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